Culture and dating

The stakes are low; the worst thing that could happen is being ignored or having bad in-person encounters, which means very little because we dabble with dating app “relationships” half-heartedly.The baseline expectation among app users is to act with some amount of civility—though often, not even that courtesy is respected.

But I think the biggest reason I have become jaded by looking for relationships at Harvard is related to one disappointing realization: that men who seemed to be interested in me for more than physical attraction were actually pursuing just that.Given that we all want to be loved or desired, it is worth further scrutinizing these theories in the hope of better fostering committed relationships on over-commit, prohibiting themselves from an active social life that would allow them to really get to know other people.Do you ever gasp at the gaggle of non-Harvard girls at parties, balking at their question, “Do you go to Harvard”?I do, because there is something upsetting about the idea that Harvard guys would outsource their party guests, affirming the cultural reality where the Harvard name works against women in social contexts.

Everyone wants to be the cavalier one, not the first one to say heartfelt words or show profound care—though taking risks is all but prerequisite to sowing the seeds of a romantic relationship.

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